What will you give your sweetheart today? After all it is Valentine’s Day.
If you haven’t done it yet, you still have time to go grab a box of candy or flowers or both. Or you can pretend you have forgotten and then run out the next day and get it half price.
Or you can ignore it.
As my Daddy used to say about a lot of the holidays, “It is just the greeting card companies making people think they have to do it so they can sell cards.”
Needless to say, he wasn’t a very romantic kind of guy. But I have to agree with him in a way. Every day should be a day to let your sweetie know that you love her.
And this goes for the gals also. After all, there should be no gender discrimination. Men like candy and attention also.
But men, do you really know what women like?
It’s the little things: Like doing the dishes without being asked, or offering to do anything when you see the need; like listening and giving weight to her opinion; maybe being the first to say, “I love you,” and not just answering, “Me too you,” or “Ditto;” giving her a hug, just because; believing her when she says that the car is making a funny noise; telling her how good the meal was that she cooked; commenting on how nice she looks when all dressed up to go somewhere; saying, “Come here, you sexy thing,” or just doing anything to show her how much you value her place in your life.
Ladies, the man in your life might like you to do some of these for him also. The bottom line is mutual respect and thoughtfulness in the little things as well as the big.
These are expressions of love, whether in words or in deeds. Romantic love is a wonderful and mysterious thing. It is indefinable. What makes you love one person and not another? No one knows, you just do. And when you know that is the one, you should hang on to them. They are truly a gift from God.
Nowadays, love doesn’t seem to last. I heard a song once that said, “If love never lasts forever, what’s forever for?” How can it just disappear into thin air? If it does, then it probably wasn’t real love in the first place.
Sometimes a relationship is a lot of work. There has to be give and take, which is called compromise. Many think it is easy, and a lot of it is. But then there are the rough times when that silken cord is stretched to the limit. You just have to hold on with both hands and not let go. If it is true love, it will be worth all the time and effort.
So give her/him a box filled with patience, care, unselfishness, and love. A little chocolate would be nice, too. And not just on Valentine’s Day, but every day of your life. Because love should last forever — that’s what forever is for.
A former longtime Baytown resident, Ginger Stripling now lives in Mont Belvieu. Contact her at email@example.com, Attention: Ginger Stripling.